Singles, singles and more Muslim singles… There are plenty of them, in all shapes, sizes, races and with various qualifications. Yet, there doesn’t seem to be one singleton sparking enough interest to say russianbridesfraud ‘let’s take this further and go for a coffee?’ So what’s going wrong at these marriage events? How do single Muslims get married these days?

The hush voices and the deafening awkwardness is unavoidable as the singles wait around for the event to start.

I watch them tiresomely introduce themselves over and over again. I see some singles losing interest, playing on their phone or jumping onto their social media lives. I even witness many bromances and womances blossoming right before my eyes… huh?

Eventually when the intros are over, relief… Phew! Then the disappointment hits. Why? Because there’s no one you want to speak to! You scroll down the list of names and still no one interests you or is remotely like the person you want to marry! You get to the end of the list and start again hoping you overlooked someone, you realise you haven’t and the stifled despair is clear to see… argh!

Half the people you’ve met you don’t even remember, some people turned up late and missed the intros altogether! amolatinascam Clearly creating a good first impression isn’t important when you’re trying to meet your soul mate!

After much consideration and deliberation the singles send some requests or accept ‘requests to meet’ for a one-to-one conversation.

These one-to-one conversations can leave you speechless at the lack of ‘conversation’! At the other end of the spectrum, astonishingly some singles are willing to drop their lives, marry and move in with you tomorrow! It makes you wonder, what on earth just happened?!

Singles walk away from these one-to-ones feeling completely underwhelmed. The brothers talk at the sisters, hoping something they said would connect with them. While the sisters’ preferred approach is a hostile and uncensored interrogation of the brothers’ past relationships and haraam (prohibited) activities… Awkward much!

Despite putting yourself through all of that and with little luck in meeting someone suitable, how do singles get married these days… or is it that they just don’t?!

Some have been trying to get married for years. They attend marriage events and use online marriage websites yet they’re still struggling to find ‘the one’. They say they’re okay with it but their feeling of defeat is palpable.

The brothers either don’t know what they want or they think the sisters are too picky. Whereas the sisters think the brothers are immature, untrustworthy and irresponsible… ouch!

Singles with no ‘requests to meet’ make a quick exit hoping no one notices. While others cling on to hope that someone will speak to them at some point.

I watch the event organisers eager to see the singles find marriage, seek out singles and personally set up a ‘request to meet’ with other singles. However it takes some coaxing, cajoling and a huge dollop of luck to make this happen.

Unfortunately sometimes there are also after-effects of these events… There are some brothers who can’t take no for an answer and think following a single Muslimah (Muslim woman) to the bus stop or tracking her down on social media is a good move… Stalker much!!

It leaves me with the question: how many brothers and sisters exchange numbers (not including bromances or womances) and actually take the next step to meet again?

So where does it leave these singles… Do Muslim singles know how to ‘date’ halal? Are they at these events because they want to be there? Or is it because their siblings, friends and cousins are getting married and they feel left behind!

These marriage events are a great resource for meeting other singles. They’ve successfully paired thousands of married couples. But are singles taking full advantage of them?

Are the singles looking for a spark or even an inkling of one? Is that asking for too much as a first meeting? So does that then mean love at first sight is out of the question?

“LET’S just do this,” my wife said firmly, yet in a whisper quiet voice, looking straight at me. It was a moment in time when every fibre of me simply walked in unison with this most previous charmdatereview instruction. Five seconds beforehand, I definitely wanted to quit!

I did not want to do it, but again, seven years hence, she whispered me.

It’s the power of her wonderfully feminine love – she is persuasive when she is desperate. A husband who promised not to moan, who did groan, when she herself wanted every bit to have herself some of that action.

But she didn’t. She wouldn’t. For her, there is no purpose in bathing in defeat, though every sinew in her weary body was pulsating with pain. For her, there was too much wisdom to sacrificed… what, for folly?

Our mini-interaction highlighted what it is for all couples – a forwards-backwards land of compromise and acceptance.

How do partners in coupledom operate when they are both exhausted leading the family enterprise? Sure, they may bicker. It might be tense for a few minutes. But one soon stays quiet. The other, too, reflects. And the one who was harsh comes. They come in the mood of hope but inflected toward repentance. They turn the ship around with their confession. And, exhausted, they begin again, continuing the working together, giving their energy to the task of being one, whatever it takes.

There is one person I want to be with whether we’re exhausted or not. Love does not shift just because the season charmdatereview is arduous. Love bunkers down, does what is necessary, gets through, keeping the faith.

Marriage is never perfect nor is it always imperfect. Perception plays a big part in marriage happiness or marriage unhappiness. So what makes some marriages last for 50 years and some less than 6 months? amolatinascam.news Is it the wrong 2 people getting married for the wrong reason? Maybe it’s less about the people and more about perceptions and expectations. Maybe, just maybe, it has to do with sacrifices or lack thereof.

OK, we can agree on this I’m sure. No marriage is perfect. You may be looking at a couple who just seem perfect together. They have the right looks, great jobs, a gorgeous home and the cutest little children. Guess what? Even the couples who look perfect have to make sacrifices, just to live happily ever after.

Here’s the deal. You have to be willing to live together and give up something you want. Let’s dig a little deeper.

OK, you may want to have a 5 bedroom house in the right school district and drive the upscale cars like everyone else in the neighborhood. So what are you willing to give up, to get those things? Are you willing to have less family time and time with your spouse as one or both of you may have to work more hours to maintain the lifestyle?

I can’t understand why spouse complain about not having enough time together when the very lifestyle they seek demands less quality time together.

Then there are the other sacrifices you have to make if you really want to live happily ever after. Here are a few of them you need to consider, for the sake of keeping your marriage together;

Don’t make hanging out with friends more important than being with your family

Avoid making working late a habit that you can’t break

Be willing to forgive, sacrificing your need to always be right

Sacrifice buying what you want and sometimes buy what you need

Consider the needs of your spouse over your needs, sometimes

Think about giving up some of the material things for better relational things

To sacrifice is not easy but it’s necessary, if you want to keep your relationship healthy. A key to sacrificing though is that both anastesiadatereview of you must be willing to sacrifice. This will not work if only one of you is willing to do so.

Clearly if your spouse wants to hang out with co-workers every Friday night while you are at home, alone or with the kids, that’s not healthy. Of course spouses need their space. I get that. However, no one needs to try to hang on to their old life style when they were single. If a person tries to be married & single they will end of single. A marriage has to have boundaries. Without them, the marriage will crash and burn, pretty quickly.

If you are frustrated or unhappy in your marriage, it’s probably because sacrifices are not being made. Find out what those are and focus on making small but meaningful changes to bring you and your spouse closer together. Do you need more time and less-things or less time and more things? Whatever the It is, figure it out now and you will be able to live together, happily ever after.

I sometimes hear from people who have the strong sense that their marriage is potentially in trouble. They can not help but notice that something has changed. Their spouse may be distant or not affectionate. It might seem as if there is nothing to really talk about anymore. There can be awkward silences or distant encounters. Many people mourn these losses anastesiadatereview because this is not what most of us envisioned on the day that we got married. So, it will be the inclination of many people to try and fix the marriage before it’s too late.

Sometimes, though, it becomes pretty clear that although you are willing to try most anything to save or to fix your marriage, your spouse isn’t as enthusiastic. This leaves you wondering if it’s possible to make any positive changes when you are the only one who is trying or if you are just wasting your time.

Someone might say, “our marriage has been slowly deteriorating for the last two and a half years. My husband and I don’t really fight, but we sort of act like strangers at this point. There’s just a distance and a coldness. We hang out with our friends more than each other. We aren’t really aware of what is happening in each other’s lives anymore. It is like we are roommates. Since my husband is starting to spend less and less time at home, I fear that he’s going to give me the ‘I need space’ speech or to ask for a separation. So I decided that I need to make some changes to try to fix things. I started asking friends about what they would do, plus I did a little research and talked to people whose opinions I respect. I found out that if I invested more time in my marriage, then this would be a good first step. I was advised to make a point of asking my husband about his daily experiences and feelings. I was advised to devote more time to my marriage. So I have been trying to do these things, but my husband doesn’t respond very well. He will just sort of give me vague answers or look at me like I’m weird to want to interact with him. I finally admitted that I was just trying to make things better with our marriage. His response to me was that people who have good marriages do not have to ‘try.’ So he does not seem at all interested in ‘trying’ when asiandatescam.online it comes to improving or ultimately saving our marriage. I guess I question if I’m wasting my time. I’m willing to try just about anything, but if my husband is not going to do anything, is it all for nothing? Can I still make it work?”

It’s really hard to predict the future in this way, but I can tell you my experience. My husband and I did separate because our marriage had gotten to the point where he was no longer happy. At first, he seemed completely unwilling to work with me. He just wanted space. He did not want to work or to make any changes no matter what I did or said to try to convince him otherwise. It eventually dawned on me that the only thing that I was going to be able to control was myself. Because we were separated, I did not have unlimited access to him. But I had unlimited access to myself. So that is where I placed most of my focus. I took a hard look at how I might have been contributing to the degradation of my marriage and I tried to address those issues. I wanted to be as healthy as I could possibly be if we ever reconciled. During the times when my husband and I did spend time together, I would just focus on making sure things went well and felt as comfortable as possible between us. I figured there would be plenty of time to work on the difficult things later. I realized that my husband’s reluctance meant that the whole situation was fragile, so I really only asked anything of myself initially.

Hebrews 13:4 (AMPC)

“Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous.”

Dear people of God, today’s society seems to have an unwritten rule especially in African societies, which is that the adulterous husband amolatina.com a scam is not really frowned upon while the adulterous wife is greatly castigated for her immorality.

As a result, while the faithful wife is coaxed to tolerate her immoral husband, the unfaithful wife is hounded, labelled all manner of names and even thrown out of her marriage by in-laws, her husband and even society.

Why is this so? One reason I want to adduce is that the society appears to place more value on a married woman’s body and fidelity. However, this throws up the question, what about the unmarried lady who is giving her body free to a married man?

Does she not have any plan to get married? When she does get married, does it remove the stain of what she had done to herself as a spinster? This is where spinsters should ponder very carefully.

What do you gain from a life of immorality all for a few currency notes just to satisfy your lust for the “goodies” of life? And what are those goodies, if not clothes, bags, shoes, maybe a car and what else? Is it really worth it? Please consider this carefully.

Now to the married lady with the adulterous husband as spouse. What could she possibly do when it does appear that the society is tolerant of her husband’s immorality? What options does she really have?

Today’s lead Holy Bible text gives us critical information, which is that “God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous.”

So this means God does not discriminate the way human societies do but God judges everyone according to His Word in the Holy Bible. God is therefore not tolerant of the adulterer whether husband or wife.

This means the adulterous man or woman is in real danger of going to an eternal damnation unless he or she repents before death or before the Lord Jesus Christ comes again in Rapture.

Here on earth, the adulterous husband is causing so much emotional torture to his wife from his sinful habit, so what should the woman do? He can even transfer a deadly incurable disease to his wife.

I will not advise the faithful wife to physically fight her husband as she could lose her life in the process. I will not advise her to report the matter to any human being. I will not advise her to physically chinalovereview confront her husband’s immoral concubine because she could harm the person and it becomes a case of murder.

In fact I will not advise her to do anything that offends God in a bid to save her marriage.

I will only make her understand that she has to fight spiritually for her marriage and her husband. The truth is, satan is the one behind her marital problems and he, satan, is using both her willing and immoral husband and his immoral concubine to create problems for her.

The married woman should realize that as long as she tolerates what is going on, which is caused by satan, she will never have peace. It is a spiritual problem so she must deal with it spiritually. Crying and lamenting to others over the situation also means she is tolerating it and it will never be resolved that way.

All she needs to do is to exercise her God-given authority over all powers of darkness (Luke 10:19) by breaking satan’s hold over her husband and marriage in the name of the Lord Jesus.

Using a simple prayer, she should say, “in the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I break the power of satan over my marriage and over my husband. I put a permanent separation between my husband and every immoral woman in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

She should then praise God for answering her prayers. She should repeat this process every single day until she sees it happen physically. Her husband will repent sincerely from adultery, return to fidelity in his marriage and even beg for her forgiveness.

Dear friend, it sounds very simple but it is the truth. However, please note that this can only work for a sincere, genuine Christian or child of God. There is enormous power available to a Christian given to us by God and by virtue of what the Lord Jesus Christ accomplished on the Cross of Calvary.

That power can only be exercised in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and then satan, demons and their agents would flee.

This is the beauty of being a Christian. God has delivered us from the total control and dominion of all powers of darkness and transferred us into the Kingdom of His dear Son, our Lord Jesus Christ – Colossians 1:13.

Go and tell your friends whose marriages are in turmoil what Jesus has done for them. They don’t need to be desperate to save their marriage. They only need to trust Jesus Christ totally and all will be well when they obey and do exactly what His commandments stipulate.

It is a great thing to be a Christian or child of the Living God and Father of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

May the good Lord bless you as you heed His Word today, act on it and share with others in the Mighty Name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

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If you are separated and living apart (but are still invested in your marriage,) it is very understandable when you feel extremely impatient. When I was separated, there were times when every day without my husband felt like torture. I actually used to fixate and ruminate on this feeling. So of course, when things start to look up between yourself and your husband, it is natural to begin to fantasize about his coming home. Sometimes, you think about this so much that you flat out ask him if he will just come home.  cupidfraud Unfortunately, sometimes you don’t get the reaction that you’d hoped for. There are times when he doesn’t say yes and he doesn’t say no. He simply tells you that he isn’t sure. This leaves you wondering where that might leave you in the future. Should you just let go of your hopes or could this only be temporary?

Someone might say, “for almost six months, my husband acted as if he could barely stand to even talk to me. Never mind the fact that he had moved out to avoid me and not fight with me. Him not even bothering to check up on me that hurt the most. I always wondered what he was doing or how he was, but it got to the point where I could not just call him up and ask about this, because he wouldn’t pick up my calls. So I was absolutely thrilled when he started calling me and then not screening his calls anymore. Even better, that lead to him asking me if we could meet a couple of times per week. All of this is more than I ever dared to hope for. Then, when we started to spend time together, things got off to an awkward start. But eventually, we started to click and things improved pretty quickly. After that, we really started connecting again. This has been such a precious time for me because it is almost like when we were first dating. I had very high hopes for a fast reconciliation. I just wanted to life our lives again and to forget about all of the pain with the separation. But a good deal of time went by and my husband didn’t say anything about this. Thankfully, we continued to see one another and to talk, but he made no mention of coming back home or of reconciling. It killed me to have such a good time together and then to go home alone. So one day I just couldn’t take it anymore and I blurted out ‘when are you coming back home?’ My husband looked at me like he was shocked at my outburst, and then he sighed and said that he wasn’t sure if he was ready anastasiadate-review for that yet. I was pretty stunned because he’d seemed happy and content while we were spending time together. Why would he be perfectly willing to be affectionate and to interact with me, but then not be sure if he wants to move back in? Does this mean that there is no hope for a reconciliation?”

No, I definitely would not say that at all. My husband and I moved very gradually when things began to gel between us again. As much as I wanted for him to move back home, I was very afraid of having our reconciliation efforts fail. I knew that if we tried to reconcile and then things went south, then I would have a very difficult (if not impossible) time ever convincing my husband to attempt another reconciliation. So essentially, I knew that I only had once chance to make this work. And I knew how lonely and miserable I was living alone. But even so, I wanted to wait until I could be relatively sure that things would actually work out.

Your husband might be having a similar thought process right now. He could just be cautious not to rush things so that the spell isn’t broken – since things seem to be going so well right now.

Believe me, I know how difficult it can be to continue to be patient when you what you want more than anything in the world is to not spend one more night alone. But when I would have these thoughts, I’d tell myself that I’d rather continue on with things as they were (on good terms between us) than to risk my progress by rushing. I just was not willing to go back to the time period where my husband was avoiding me, not returning my calls, and giving me very limited access to him. I decided that I would rather wait than return to that.

Instead, I just tried to slant things so that my husband spent more and more time in our home. I’d offer to make him dinner. I’d ask him to fix things. Eventually he spent the night. Then this turned into him spending weekends. It got to where he was staying for several days at a time. Then he just moved back in, but there was nothing really official about it. This took so much pressure off of the situation. If we had a bad night together, he simply went back to his place, allowed things to cool off, and then we picked back up. We were able to evaluate our “hot spots” and places where we still had work to do before we attempted a full on reconciliation. This gradual approach meant there was much less risk and pointed out where we could still make improvements before my husband moved back in full time.

You married the love of your life and expected to live happily ever after. That was your dream but if your marriage is like the other 99.99 percent of marriages, it hasn’t turned out as you expected. Hopefully you have had some good times along the way. The good thing about life is that as long as you are still breathing, things can get better. Just because you get knocked down it doesn’t mean you have to stay down. anastesiadatereviews If your marriage is not where you want it to be you can make it better. Here are 6 easy things you can do to make your marriage better.

Think before you speak. It sounds pretty simple right but it’s hard to do sometimes. The problem is that because of built up frustrations couples tend to be more negative than positive with their words. Instead of listening to each other you become accustomed to cutting each other up with sarcastic statements and criticisms. Compliments are replaced with put downs and each and every one damages your relationship. It’s like poking a pin in your heart and before you know it, all of the love has leaked out. Make sure you control your words before they further damage your marriage.

Resist the urge to retaliate. I know this one is difficult. Especially if your spouse is petty and inconsiderate. However, you have to decide what you want. Do you want to improve your marriage or get even with your spouse? I’m not saying you need to be a doormat where your spouse walks all over you. However, there is no need to respond to every dumb and possibly immature thing your spouse does. You need to be the mature one for the sake of improving your marriage. Instead of being revengeful be respectful.

Be purposeful in your actions. Improving your marriage will not happen without planning and purpose. Treat this next phase of your marriage as the most important period of your life. Your future depends on the next year or two so don’t just sit back and wait to see how things turn out. You can impact what happens next but it takes planning. What things can you do for and with your spouse that will make your marriage better? russianbridesreviews Set some time aside and think about this question at least once a week. You will be amazed how planning to improve your marriage will actually result in a better marriage.

Remove bad influences from your marriage. There are people, things and behaviors that negatively impact your marriage. It might be a good time to figure out what is hurting your marriage and begin to remove it from your relationship. It could be a person that constantly causes friction between you or habits such as spending, hanging out with friends or spending too much time binge T.V. watching. It’s pretty easy to recognize those things that raise the level of tension in your house and marriage. Start to reduce those and your marriage will improve almost immediately, by default.

Resist comparing your marriage to others. It’s easy to look at other couples and wish your relationship was like theirs. The problem is you really have no idea how their marriage is. You might regret it if you really did have their marriage. There could be infidelity, mental or emotional abuse, neglect or they could be heading for divorce. Instead of wishing to have someone else’s marriage you need to spend your time and energy making your marriage better. No marriage is perfect and your marriage will never be. However, that doesn’t mean you should settle for mediocre marriage. You should strive to have the best marriage you and the love of your life can have.

Make your spouse feel appreciated. One of the easiest ways to improve your marriage is to appreciate your spouse. People like to know that what they do matters. Be sure to let your spouse know how much you appreciate what he/she does for your marriage. It will go a long way in creating the loving and meaningful relationship you expected to have, when you tied the knot.

THIS article is an offering about such an oft dull topic: marriage. “Dull?” I hear you say… yes, Dull!

But isn’t dull good? Seriously.

Yet I don’t at all mean dull in the sense of boring. I mean dull in the sense of utterly imperfect as in seeing yet not seeing… as in what the apostle Paul mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13:12a, “For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face.”

Marriage, now, is dull, and with our partner we see dimly at best, as do they, but one day soon, when marriage is superfluous, chinalovereview because we shall no longer need it, we will see the Lord face to face. Our marriage with God will be delight.

Now, I am sure there are those who will read who will say, “What planet is the guy on? My marriage is magnificent!” Of course, it is. I am so thankful for mine, too. My marriage is magnificent. But not in the ways I thought it would be magnificent when I first said, “I do.” Your marriage may be sheer bliss, every moment. You do have an extraordinary marriage! But isn’t every marriage extraordinary? Every single partnering with a commitment ’til death do us part’ is a miracle of righteous romance.

Magnificent, yet dull. We are marred by our human condition, and as a man I must confess that marring is telling and fatal. It is as terrible as it is certain. My wife loves me, there is no question in that, but the fact is, she deserves more; much more than I can give. Some men say they ‘married up’. Well, we all miss the mark by a significant amount.

My thesis is that romance is ordinary. It lasts a few fleeting moments and then, as a vapour, it wafts away… but the real romance is dullness endured. That’s the real love story. Will you sit there while I cut my toe nails? Can you endure my bathroom odour? Are the errands of life something we can do together? Shall I tell you what disgusts me? anastasiadate Do please help me clean up the children’s messes. And… what will you do when I say, “Leave me alone?” Will you stay?

Dull, but good. Dull, magnificently dull.

How magnificent that, though we see dimly, we still have the decency to see it through to the bitter end. Through thick and thin, that is love. That there’s nothing you can do to dissuade me!

Magnificence in marriage is saying, “I am, all of me, all yours!”

Love is both partners smiling amid the truth: the good, the bad, and the ugly.

We live in a topsy turvy world, and but one example of this is it is misogynistic one moment, feminist the next. amolatinareview The former treat women with disdain, the latter hail the glory of women at times to the derision of men. Both situations are overreactions, and I see them weekly if not daily.

Being prone to being more feminist than misogynist, I favour the closing of the gap in inequality between women and men, but not to the extent that men are significantly disadvantaged in the process – that itself is the inequality borne of overreaction.

Let’s extend the discussion and focus on marriage. Here is what I think is theologically true:

Christ died

so that we may live,

Without burdens put on us

He’d never give,

We bear our cross

But let’s be aware,

Of the devil’s plan

Because perfection’s his snare.

The apostle Paul instructed husbands to love their wives just as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Remember though who Christ is – perfect and sinless in every way. Husbands are exhorted to strive for the standard, daily, but not to be beholden to it. It is too much for anyone to attain perfection. But certainly this is what repentance is for; when we fail to live up to biblical standards.

I know I have made the error in the past of suggesting that husbands in weak marriages do what is impossible even for husbands in strong marriages. No husband can attain to perfection, nor can any wife, so why would we hold either partner accountable for failing to reach an impossible standard.

No, it is for husbands to strive for the standard and simply repent when they inevitably fall short. That, there, is the glory of the relational gospel – that a husband might confess his wrong to his wife, so he may be forgiven, and that reconciliation might take place.

There is nothing of the gospel in a wife saying to her husband, ‘Hey, listen buddy, you are not exactly loving me as you should, as Christ loves His church.’ The husband would be well within his rights anastesiadatefraud to say back to his wife, ‘So if I could love you as Christ loves His church, then Christ died for nothing.’

The way the gospel peace works is through individual revelation of sin, confession, and repentance. It is getting the log out of our own eye. The gospel of peace has nothing to do with pointing out others’ faults, but dealing with our own, in faith that the other person will do the same, but for which we really don’t have a say or a responsibility.

So, husbands and wives relax. Expect no level of perfection from one another. Expect to mutually submit in the ways of confession and repentance, that’s all, in holding only yourself to account. Then your partner is free to love you without fear of your judgment.

Christ died

so that we may live,

Without burdens put on us

He’d never give,

We bear our cross

But let’s be aware,

Of the devil’s plan

Because perfection’s his snare.

Christ’s call for both men and women in marriage is to bear their respective cross. It would only help marriage if we threw out all the complicated theologies about gender roles that only add the pressure of expectation. We only sustain these precious methodologies because human beings like designing systems. Don’t forget God has made it possible that we can achieve the same result in different ways.

Let’s not be held to a teaching that seems particularly difficult to achieve when mutual submission meets the gospel aim.

I think marriages are best blessed when husbands arrive at the balance between striving for and aspiring to love their wives as Christ loved the church. They strive for that standard, realising it is aspirational, knowing it is unattainable, accepting they are fallen, yet they are always trying, and always committed to reconciling their relational realities.